Pipe Dreams And Missed Child Support Payments: 9 Ways To Weed Out A Boy From A Man

November 23, 2012  |  
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Often times, it can be hard for us women to tell if we’re dealing with someone who’s fully grown or someone who has a lot more growing up to do, especially if we grew up without a father or any other male figure to show us the ropes and teach us the difference between a little boy and a real man. Even women who are experienced daters sometimes find themselves battling it out with a guy who started off as their dream guy and wound up being an overgrown child. Well, question no more because these nine signs tell you everything you need to know about whether you’re dealing with a scrub versus a stand-up guy, or better yet, a man versus a boy.

Men Take Care of Responsibility

A real man does whatever he has to do to take care of his obligations. If he gets laid off work, he’ll bus tables at Mickey D’s before he sees his family go hungry. You don’t have to argue with him about bills, they’re already paid (or getting paid as we speak). No fussing about spending time with his kids, they’re already taken care of, and no worries about taking out the trash, it’s already done.
Now boys, on the other hand, will get you pregnant and leave, put up a fight about how much money he should be paying on the rent, and leave it up to you to do things that he knows damn well he should be doing for his children. If this is the case, get rid of him, he’s no good.

A Real Man Keeps His Word

When he says he’ll be there at eight to pick you up for your doctor’s appointment, you can rest assure that your man will be there to take care of you. Whatever he says, he means it and always comes through. Now if he’s constantly changing his mind and making excuses of why he can’t be there and disappoints you on the regular, then you know you’re dealing with a boy. Move on.

A Man Will Respect You

When you’re with a man, he will make you feel like you’re a queen sitting on a throne. He will never hurt you or make you feel like you have no worth. He knows that you are special and treats you as such. So anytime you’re called out your name, made to feel like trash, or have to deal with bs from “other” women, you know he doesn’t respect you. Let him go, baby boy still has a lot of growing to do.

Boys Play Games, Men Don’t

When it comes to relationships, a real man will do everything in his power to make you happy. He won’t have you thinking that you’re the only woman in his life when you’re not and he won’t tell you he loves you and wants to be with you if he doesn’t mean it. But a boy, he will keep you hanging on knowing that he really can’t see a future with you and have you thinking that you’ve stolen his heart, not because he wants to spare your feelings, but because he only cares about your body parts and what you can give him.

Boys Don’t Know How to Communicate

Ever talk to a man and anytime you’re saying something he doesn’t want to hear, he shuts down, changes the subject, or throws in negative remarks completely unrelated to the topic at hand, just to spark an argument? He’s a little boy.
Men have no problems listening and sharing their thoughts. They don’t shy away from important and meaningful conversations, no matter how uncomfortable or upsetting they can be. Open up already!

Men Know What They Want Out of Life, Boys Don’t

A mature grown man knows exactly what he wants and needs out of life and how to get it. Whether he already has it or is working towards making it happen, men have their heads on straight and their whole life mapped out. A man without goals, ambition and aspirations is not a man at all and will probably look to ride your coattails to get success.

Men Are Secure and Confident

When you step out the house looking fine, turning heads and dropping jaws, a guy who’s a man won’t trip. Why? Because he knows you belong to him and he’s secure enough to believe that how he treats you and what he provides will keep you by his side. But not just with you, in everything he does, he executes it with the mentality that he’s more than capable of getting it done. Men don’t doubt themselves and their abilities. So when you’re with a guy who throws fits when you get too many stares or constantly questions himself, beware girl, you’re dealing with an insecure little boy.

Boys Are Immature, Men Are Full Grown

It’s pretty much self-explanatory. If he acts like he’s five, doesn’t step up to the plate when he should, and you have to handle him the same way you do your newborn niece, you’re dealing with a not-fully-grown and young-minded adolescent.

A Man Would Rather Walk Away Than To Lay A Finger on You

We all go through that stage in life where we run around the schoolyard fighting with boys, slapping them up while they hold us in a headlock. But once we reach a certain age, most boys learn the importance of keeping their hands to themselves (as should grown women). No matter how much you nag, how many times you jump in his face, push, punch or pull, an authentic, thorough man is smart enough to walk away. And if he doesn’t, if he chooses to raise his hands rather than leave you be, know that this little boy has not fully grown out of his schoolboy ways and if he strikes you once, he will do it again. Therefore, it’s best to leave him alone.

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