Mother Struggles Raising Son Fathered By Dad: It’s Like Which One Are You Today? My Son Or My Brother?
It’s hard enough being a single mother, but being a single mother to a son fathered by your own father brings a new set of problems for 27-year-old Columbia, SC, mom Tiara Stevens.
“That confuses me a lot,” she told WISTV local news. “It’s like, ‘Which one are you today? Are you my son, or are you my brother?’ Because he really is both.”
When Tiara was just 12 years old she became pregnant by her father who routinely sexually abused her as a pre-teen.
“He never told me what he was doing,” she said. “It was just late at night. He would come in, take my clothes off, and he would have sex. And he would leave and he would say, ‘You better not stay up all night,’ and I would go in the bathroom and I would cry. The next night he may not do it, but the next night, he would repeat the same thing.”
One night, Tiara’s father received more than he bargained for when he realized he had impregnated his child.
“He had done what he usually did to me and the baby kicked and whenever he did, he said, ‘Get up, hold your shirt up. You’re pregnant,'” Tiara said.
Unfortunately that revelation didn’t come about until just a few days before young Tiara went into labor, meaning she didn’t receive any prenatal care at all.
“The only place I went was to the hospital,” Tiara said. “Never went to any doctors appointments or anything. Only thing I remember is passing out at school. I really didn’t get big or nothing.”
DSS stepped in after Tiara gave birth in January 1999, but giving a statement to Lancaster deputies was as far as the case went. Determined to get justice more for her son than for herself, Tiara’s case against her father is finally set to go to court next month. There, she will recount the horrid things her father did to her, and the most permanent stain he left which are the health conditions his son/grandson now has to deal with — being legally blind and albino — because of their close gene pool.
“I didn’t do nothing wrong, and what the system is trying to do to me is not right, waiting 14 years for justice,” Tiara said.
“Everyday, I look at my son, his health conditions because of what [my father] did, so [my father] has actually got it easy. I’m the one that’s got it so hard.”
Hopefully those tables will turn when the trial against her father begins November 5.