Siohvaughn Funches-Wade is speaking out again on Dywane Wade and the breakdown of their marriage and subsequent custody agreement in an interview with the Daily Mail Online and it’s not good. The ex-wife of the Miami Heat player and mother of the baller’s two sons is clearly still in a place of literal mourning over the couple’s split and the loss of custody of her boys and she didn’t mind expressing all of those feelings in a rather personal interview.
“The way it broke down was heartbreaking,’ Siohvaughn said of the couple’s split. “It was a mourning to me rather than a divorce. This person I had loved was literally dead. I felt the way a wife feels when her husband dies. That person was literally gone.
“I wish he would’ve stayed,” she said. “If I had to choose between the money and the love, I would have chosen the love. But I can’t choose.”
Despite wishing she and Dwyane were still together, Shiovaughn recalled some pretty horrid moments between the pair, all of which she claims stemmed from him being drafted in 2002. The Mail reports:
“‘I’d practically begged him [to wait to enter the draft],’ she said. ‘We had just got married and had a child. I wanted time to settle, to build as a family. I asked him to choose between his family or him and he chose his family.’
The following year, he chose his career. While Siohvaughn said she willed him to do well, she was ‘terrified’ about how it would affect their marriage, despite her husband’s assurances.
Her fears were justified: After the draft in 2003, he signed a three-year $8.5 million contract and he was thrown into the world of celebrity – and his marriage began to crack.
‘When [NBA commissioner] David Stern called his name, that changed everything,’ she said. ‘Our circumstances were so drastically different. We went from living in in this two-bedroom apartment in Marquette to these places overlooking the ocean in Miami. Everybody said yes to us.
‘I was seduced, too. I lost sight of some of my values. The further I got into that lifestyle, the further I got away from God. I just woke up sooner than he did.’
Siohvaughn said she saw her husband slipping from her as he revelled in his fame and fortune – staying out all night, surrounding himself with new friends and arguing with her, she said.
‘I was very sad because this was not the person I dated,’ she said. ‘This was my very best friend and I couldn’t reach him anymore – without question it was because of the money.
‘I think Dwyane had been rejected a lot when he was younger and then suddenly people started cheering and clapping and wanting to be around him. I think he overindulged in that. It was disgusting to me.’
Wade acknowledges that the relationship was falling apart and that he was desperate for it to work and, aware that the birth of their first son had brought them together, thought he had a solution.
He did ask me to have another child,’ she said. ‘I was very hesitant to do so, not because I didn’t want another child but because there was so much that Dwyane had swept under the rug.
‘There were so many things that were so serious, like other women. It’s my belief that that was happening. But it was part of the lifestyle – going out late, travelling, being with different people.’
On top of the pressures to live the celebrity lifestyle, was the violence Siovaughn claims she experienced when Dwyane was actually home. The domestic incidents prompted her to move in with her mother and file for divorce from Dwyane in 2007 and that’s when the custody battle, which she eventually lost, ensued. When Dwyane was granted sole custody of their boys, Siovaughn was ordered not to have any contact with her sons for 30 days following the ruling to allow them to adjust to their new surroundings. She says that time period was unbearable.
“When my lawyer called, I knew it was bad news but I begged him to tell me. I remember taking a moment to pause. I could break down at that moment or I could say, ‘God help me’. There’s no money that can buy that kind of strength.
“In the hours and weeks after, I cried and cried and I remember being scared when I’d see them again. Would they look different? Would their clothes still fit them? Would they still love me? I worried that they would think I wanted them to go away. There’s nothing anyone could have done for me to say, ‘Get me away from them.'”
“How devastating and traumatic for these two small boys,” she said, sobbing. “Zion was a baby. To tell your baby that I’m going to see them in two days and that turns into two months. I can’t describe what it felt like to speak to them after 30 days. They were crying so hard they couldn’t even talk.”
Fifteen years after hooking up with her high school sweetheart at the young age of 15, Siohvaugn is almost reliving her custody battle all over again, having been arrested for child abduction back in July. Because of her actions, the courts have granted her no visitations between August and November 8 — a judgement she worries will be very hurtful on her boys.
“Not seeing their mother could have a very negative effect,’ Siohvaughn said. “We know what happened to Dwyane without his mom in his life and how he turned to my family.”
For now though, the single mother is focused on completing her law degree and struggling to survive on minimal spousal support from Dwyane which she claims “isn’t enough to pay my bills.” That point aside, I do feel for Siohvaughn and the losses she hasn’t yet been able to put behind her. What do you think about her latest interview?
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