WOMAN to WOMAN: Decoding The Book Of Bull
Ladies, ladies, ladies when are we going to stop falling for the okey-doke and realize when we are being fed a bunch of bull. I know you probably think you are much smarter than that and there is no way you could get caught up in a web of deceit. But no one is immune from being blinded by love and lies.
Many of you have emailed me your questions and concerns regarding men in “situations” who you are dating. Here are your answers decoded…
He told you – “We sleep in separate rooms”: This is usually said to make you feel like you are the only one sleeping with him. But what he really means is his wife/girlfriend no longer wants him sleeping next to her in their bed so he is uncomfortably resting his head on the couch or guest room.
He told you – “I’m looking for a place”: What he is trying to say is he has been fantasizing about the single life to the point of even daydreaming of having a bachelor pad to call his own. This man is going absolutely nowhere. The only way he is getting his own place is if his wife/girlfriend kicks him out.
He told you – “I’m with her for the kids”: This is an easy one. It’s cheaper to keep her. Men are far from stupid and when it comes to protecting their money they are pure geniuses. He knows he will pay a fortune if he walks away from his current family situation to be with you. So, in his defense this not 100% bull, there is some truth to it.
He said – “I owe her” – What he really means is that even though she may not have been with him “shooting in the gym” she definitely was around way before he was. Plainly speaking, she has stuck with him through his good times and bad times and he will forever be loyal to her by never leaving. He may play around with you but his allegiance will always be with her.
If you have something you wanted decoded, shoot me an email at rhooks@madamenoire or find me on twitter @rashanahooks