The “L” Word: Knowing The Difference Between Love & Lust…
“I love you”, “I am falling in love with you”, “and I have fallen in love with you”. These are all phrases many of us have heard, and or have said to someone we were or are presently in relationships with. But how many of us really know what love is? How do we know if we have fallen in love, or in lust? Do we know and understand the difference between the two? Many people often confuse love with lust because they don’t know what love is and what lust is. There are many definitions of both love and lust that have derived based on different experiences and emotions with relationships. Many people believe that love and lust are emotions that produce actions that lead to reactions, but what people fail to realize is that love and lust are not emotions.
Love is…Love is an action that is others centered. It is giving to others without the expectancy of something in return. It is setting aside your ego for fulfillment of your own needs, and being concerned with the needs of someone else. The selfless action of love is driven by meeting the needs of others.
Lust is…Lust is an action that is self-centered. It is giving to others with the expectancy of something in return. The action of lust is motivated by one’s ego-centered needs, be it physical, financial or mental, to be satisfied by someone else.