“Basketball Wife” Tamia Explains What’s Really Wrong with VH1’s Reality

March 14, 2012  |  


By now we all know that what we see on VH1’s “Basketball Wives” is far from reality, but sometimes you need an insider to tell you what life really is like being married to a basketball player. The Huffington Post caught up with singer Tamia, who’s the wife of NBA  player Grant Hill, and she gave her thoughts on how much of the show is real, and brought up an interesting point about how women aren’t the only ones who look bad on the show. Here’s what she said:

“I think the perception is definitely not a reality. I think, to be fair, a lot of those women [on the show] aren’t wives. And I’m good friends with Shaunie. And as far as business is concerned, I applaud her, but I think that it’s definitely very misleading in terms of what our lives are about.

“I do have a lot of friends who are married to athletes, and a lot of these women are involved in charities, doing all kinds of things behind the scenes and are supportive wives, and — believe it or not — have supportive husbands who are really great guys. I think not only for the women, but I think it just paints a really bad picture about the men as well. I think for athletes in general, people are like, ‘Why would you want to marry an athlete?’ And that goes back to what I was saying to you: what works in one person’s marriage, may not work in the next. So keep your eyes focused on yours! I guess it’s interesting TV, but it’s definitely not reality.”

Tamia has a good point. When any woman has drama with a basketball player, we typically think, well, what did you expect hooking up with a pro athlete, and we forget that every man with skills on the court isn’t a dog when he steps off of it. So how do Tamia and Grant make their marriage work? Here’s what she said:

“I always say, “What works in one marriage may not work in the next. So definitely keep your eyes focused on your own relationship,” she said. “I think it’s important to understand that you guys are going to grow. Obviously, I’m not the same person that I was at 24, and he’s not the same person that he was. But we also together allowed each other to grow as well and stay connected at the same time. And I think that’s important. And obviously, communication is super important. And at the end of the day we just love being with each other and being really good friends”

Well, she said it twice for a reason. If you want to make it work, keep your focus on your own relationship and not everyone  else’s.

What do you think about what Tamia said? Does “Basketball Wives” uphold negative stereotypes about the athletes as well?

Brande Victorian is a blogger and culture writer in New York City. Follower her on Twitter at @be_vic.

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