Ask A Very Smart Brotha Live: Sifting Through the Sh!t & Waiting for Him to Commit

March 7, 2012  |  
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Anna: I dont understand why there are so many Very Smart Brothers, but we as sisters and brothers cant seem to come together in unity and harmony in our relationships. We go to different sites set up to tear us apart and go in on each other. Some (not all) brothers call sisters gold diggers, but leave sisters behind to go digging for white women’s gold. Why is that?

D.Y.: There are alot of hurt people out there right now, looking for scapegoats (both real and imagined) to blame for their pain. When this occurs, you can’t have real communication and conversation without it turning into a “My life is Shytetier than yours” contest.

Thing is, and please believe this, it’s not all that bad. Yes, there are some effed up people out there saying effed up things, but there are also a ton of people who are happy and seem to be doing things right. We get so caught up in paying attention to the bad that we forget the good even exists.

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