Ask A Very Smart Brotha Live: Sifting Through the Sh!t & Waiting for Him to Commit
Pier: I’ve been with my guy for ten years now. We have three children and he has and outside child that he had while we were together…Well I’ve overcome the child that he had on me and now I’m looking for us to get married now. It’s as if he’s still not ready…I’ve become impatient and I’m just ready to give up. I’m 27 and he’ll be 30…I’m just looking for a man’s point of view on things. May I have your input please?
D.Y.: Trust me. He’s doing you a favor by not marrying you.
Pier: Ok so you don’t think I/we should get or be married?…I’m not just looking at the bad because the good has outweighed it. But you think it’s better to just let it all go.
D.Y.: I can’t speak on what “good” there has been. I can only say that the bads (1. He had enough unprotected sex with other women while you were together to produce a child, 2. You’ve been together since D’Angelo Barksdale was still alive and he’s still undecided about his future with you) are pretty damn bad.