The apologies are tremendous
Everybody likes a good make up session—maybe some passionate, deeply felt “I love you’s” once the storm has blown over. These make up sessions are amplified 100 times in abusive couples. They go from screaming and even hurting one another to desperately making out, crying, saying “baby I love you so much. I’m so sorry. I love you more than anyone has ever loved anyone.” See that last comment? These apologies can become addicting for some. They are intense—almost intense enough to make up for the abuse (not really of course, but to a fragile enough woman, they will do the trick).