It didn’t start that way
Of course it didn’t. Do you think a woman would risk date #2 with a guy who laid hands on her or even showed any sort of aggression on date #1? Absolutely not, because she has no attachment to him at that point. Unfortunately, if a man has abusive tendencies, he is usually very good at hiding these until much later when he knows a woman is strongly attached to him. So, at that point, many women rationalize, “I know he’s not a monster—I know it because there was a time during this relationship when he was not abusive. We can get back to that time.” Nuh-uh. He has been waiting to get to this time—the time of abuse. This was no slip-up—no random occurrence that was triggered by something. It was a tendency that simply laid dormant in him for a while.