Ama Yawson, co-founder of http://www.loveessence.com/ a dating site for black women and all men, penned a letter of encouragement to single black women looking for love.
Dear Triumphant Scientifically Attractive Marriageable Single Black Woman,
Sweet kisses? Tender caresses? Inspiring words? Early morning love-making sessions with the person who has promised to love and support you through poverty and wealth, sickness and health as long as you both shall live?
Yes, yes, and more yes. That is exactly what you deserve if your heart so desires.
So to the extent that the negative media surrounding black women’s beauty and relationship prospects, or what Ariana Proehl refers to as the “Tragic Scientifically Unattractive Unmarriageable Single Black Woman Narrative,” has led you to consider giving up on love for one millisecond, I pray that you will reconsider.
Yes, I understand that during the past two years the media has been throwing spears in your direction. Pop singer John Mayer proclaimed that his white supremacist penis won’t allow him to date or mate with a black woman. Our own black brother NFL player, Albert Haynesworth exclaimed that he can’t remember the last time he dated a black woman. Quack scientist Satoshi Kanazawa published an article with “scientific evidence” that black women were less attractive than other women. Countless academics continue to pontificate on the African-American marriage decline while citing black male incarceration rates and high-school drop-out rates to explain the dearth of eligible black men to marry you. It is enough to make you vomit, lose hope and decide to solely focus on other things such as community or political activism.
But I have a question for you.
When have you ever allowed the stereotypes, negative statistics or euro-centric notions of beauty heralded by the mass media to define you or circumscribe your aspirations?
Read the rest of Yawson’s inspiring letter at Black Voices.com.
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