Ask The Luv Coach: I Lied On My Online Profile and Now My Boo Wants To Cut Things Off
My situation is a bit complicated in that it involves a 1.5 year online long distance relationship where I had lied about my online profile. I told him the truth in September and suffice to say it didn’t go down well. He said about a week after I told him the truth that he doesn’t mind being friends but that there is no chance for us to be more in the future. I am not sure if he said it out of anger/hurt at that time or if he really meant it because even looking at our relationship objectively, he truly was in love with me to the point where he was going on interviews to move to the country that I said I lived in.
We are finally back on talking terms since November but it is very casual and indifferent and that is why I think trying to rebuild trust by way of doing the friends route is not working.
So I was planning on apologizing again but this time focusing on him and making sure that he understands that I have taken these 3 months to really try and understand what he feels. I would like to tell him that I still have feelings for him and hope for a future together but that I understand that trust takes time to be rebuilt and that the decision is his. But I’m not sure if dredging up the past is a good idea either. It’s just that I feel that the situation is urgent because he is slipping away.