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There is a level of vulnerability every personality needs when they do reality television in order to make the show worth watching. They have to be willing to go into detail about the things going on in their lives.  The good, the bad, and sometimes the ugly.

But there’s a difference between a personality being open and vulnerable, and a person being overexposed at a particularly troubling time in their lives. That’s not good TV, but rather, capitalizing off of someone’s pain. If you ask me, that’s what it feels like watching Tamar Braxton: Get Ya Life.

I get what the show was supposed to be. Fans were going to see Braxton rebuilding her life to obtain her intended happy ending. After her very public divorce, she looked as though she’d found love again with David Adefeso. She was jumpstarting her music career on her own. She also was trying different means to deal with the trauma of falling out with her family, a number of friends, childhood pain, and the things that plague her dreams. It was maybe going to be feel-good television.

However, what the first episode showed wasn’t warm and fuzzy. We saw people put their agendas ahead of her needs. There was Mona Scott-Young persuading Braxton to do the show even though she was clearly unsure and emotional. There was Adefeso griping about not being able to have sex with her for 45 days as part of her efforts to analyze her dreams, which she felt would help her reach her highest potential. There was the music producer who was so concerned with trying to get her to churn out a hit, he didn’t pay attention to the fact that Braxton claimed she couldn’t sing because she lost her voice. He also didn’t catch on to her clear lack of desire to record in the moment. And then there was the show producer who wanted to film even when she physically and emotionally couldn’t do it.

And more than anything, everything just felt sad. To clarify, she is not sad, and I don’t pity her. That’s patronizing. What I mean is, despite her trademark exaggerated gestures and expressions, the weight of the burdens she carries is clearly heavy. It’s not easy to have started something with your sisters and then years later, not be in good standing with most of them. It’s not easy to lose your manager and your husband in one and have to start over in your profession from scratch. It’s not easy to be a person of faith and feel like you will emotionally drown if things don’t work out as you hope. Now that part I can relate to. And it’s not easy doing all the aforementioned while trying to be a parent. So to watch someone show the insecurities that come with trying to pull it together from all of that, feels wrong, especially when you know that the mere prospect of the show airing in general pushed her to the brink. She was aware that was was captured was more hurtful than helpful.

Braxton is, in most cases, entertaining. You see it in glimpses on this series. Still, she is not a show dog or puppet needing to perform when those behind the camera say “rolling!” She deserved the opportunity to deal with her demons away from the glaring eye of others. Not with producers trying to evaluate her breakdowns, not with a dream coach, and certainly not on national television.

I’m not the only person who felt that way. Hit the flip to see reactions to the premiere of Tamar Braxton: Get Ya Life.

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“So I stumbled upon the premiere of Tamar new reality show.. this footage is so uncomfortable to watch,” said Twiiter user @heyjerbear about the first episode. “Y’all ought to be shame.” The Twitter user tagged WE tv and Mona Scott-Young in their comment. 

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Twitter user @MelanatedCrowns was confused by the series.

“If Tamar was trying to get her life back on track, why was a reality show [sic]. That’s the most cringeworthy thing to witness; Someone who thinks they’re remedying their problem with the same trigger that offset it to begin with. #GetYourLife #TamarBraxton”

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A few people who watched the show made mention of Tamar Braxton’s ex-husband, Vince Herbert.

“The moment Tamar and Vince divorced, she needed to go to therapy #GetYaLife,” said Twitter user @tsJasDarling. 
@Terrin37091664 said after watching the premiere, “Im even more convinced that Vince was the one holding Tamar together #GetYaLife”
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As for her most recent beau, David Adefeso, people are already skeptical about him and it’s only been one episode.
User @Takasalyn said, “David basically told Tamar that his sexual needs are more important than her healing. #GetYaLife” 
While user @BeingKMichelle, an ironic name to use while speaking on Braxton, said this about David:
“David you’re this firm believer in God but you’re upset about not having sex for 45 days. You’re not MARRIED #GetYaLife”
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Some users said that they got the vibe that Adefeso is controlling.

“David isn’t receptive to Tamar getting help. That says a lot about his character,” said user @Camia_Xi. “She just sat here and told him what she needed to do and he made it about him. I’m disgusted. #GetYaLife”
Meanwhile, @9erchic4life said, “I hope Tamar is addressing WHY she keeps choosing these extremely CONTROLLING MEN #GetYaLife”
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Twitter user @TarshaTee felt that Tamar needed to go on this journey off-camera. 

“I’m just trying to figure out the need to film this #GetYaLife show! It’s clear she needed therapy and the depths this is about to go, we didn’t have to see!”

Tarsha, we totally agree with you.

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The show left some viewers deep in their feelings, like user @acamw143. They said that moments like the ones Tamar experienced on the show didn’t need to be on television.
“I came away from the show very uncomfortable and emotional. Even the background music. Like, this ain’t for us to see. Tamar needs healing…in private #TamarBraxton #GetYaLife”
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As for Twitter user @CWatchesThings, they said that the show wasn’t sitting right with their spirit. 
“Something about #GetYaLife isn’t sitting well with me. Given all of the recent events involving Tamar and her boyfriend paired with the fact that Tamar just seems really unstable in this first episode… idk.
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Others mentioned that they wondered why Tamar would feel comfortable signing up for the show during such a fragile time for herself.
“I’m so confused. Why did Tamar sign up to do this show that she obviously didn’t want to do? #GetYaLife” asked user @imso252.
“#GetYaLife seems like a trigger to an already vulnerable artist with deep issues,” said “@TForever45. “This won’t be solved by making hits for an album”
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And Twitter user @BigMike825 said after watching the show, he just wanted to send positivity her way.
“All we can do is pray for Tay.. those who know the word of prayer,” he wrote. “Seeing Tay lose her voice & then expressing outward pressures that is putting more pressure on her… further ‘choking her vocal,’ -sad. Sending her love & light.”
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