Whew Chile, The Ghetto: 10 Types To Avoid When Online Dating
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When you’re dating online, it’s easy to be deceived. After all, the person behind the other screen can tell you whatever they’d like and until you get to know them, you pretty much have to take them at their word until you learn otherwise. Further, it can be tough to tell whether or not a person is right for you based solely on a few limited conversations. That said, there are a few guidelines to abide by that can help you to avoid a few headaches and a few frogs. Here are ten types to avoid when online dating.
Mr. Hypersexual (unless that’s what you’re into)
Most women who have dabbled in online dating — even if only for a short period of time — have encountered suitors who seem to let their private areas do all of the thinking. They will often start a conversation using sexual innuendo and some are even bold enough to send unsolicited pictures of their private areas. It’s clear what these types are looking to accomplish as they eagerly swipe right so if that’s not what you’re into, it’s a good idea to keep it pushing.
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The one who tries to keep the relationship online
Just like those you meet IRL, there are some online daters who will send mixed signals. Among those conflicted individuals are the ones who will gas you up about how they’re looking to build with someone like you, talk a good game about their plans for distant and near future, but never make actual steps towards making anything happen. They always text, never call, and make no effort to actually meet up.
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The one who comes on mad strong
There’s a thin line between knowing what you want and doing the absolute most. While there may be such a thing as love at first sight, do not believe the hype. Those who come on extremely strong during those first couple of interactions may have their feet pressed to the gas because they come with ulterior motives.
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The one who insists on meeting up tonight
Anytime you’re engaged in online dating, it’s best to proceed with caution and get to know your suitor before meeting up in person. Those who insist on meeting up immediately after the first conversation should raise red flags for a few reasons. You should have a pretty solid idea of who you’re communicating with and you should be comfortable before taking that next step.
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The one who asks if you’ve ever been with a white guy
Any guy who opens a conversation with a new match by asking, “Have you ever been with a white guy?” isn’t interested in interracial dating, he’s looking to satiate a fetish. Racial fetishism is hurtful and it’s not a solid foundation upon which to build a relationship.
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The one who gives off creepy vibes
As with anything else in life, it’s a good idea to trust your gut. Any time someone makes you feel uncomfortable or general feelings of uneasiness, it’s better to trust your instincts and cease contact with that person. It’s always better to be safe than sorry.
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The one who is clearly married
Once you’ve been on the dating apps long enough, you’ll encounter someone who will straight up tells you that they’re married and looking to dabble in a little something on the side. Sometimes they’ll use their so-called unhappiness as an excuse. Other times, they’ll claim that their wife knows what they’re up to and that they’re in an open relationship. Both explanations sound kind of fishy, so it’s a good idea proceed with caution.
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The one who claims he falls in love easily
People on dating apps who boast about falling in love easily in their dating profiles are usually being or insincere, struggle with attachment, or frequently confuse infatuation with love. Each of these scenarios can produce their share or issues and headaches in a dating relationship.
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Anyone who mentions money in the first conversation
First encounters should be light and carefree. Conversations about money — whether to boast about having a surplus of it or to poor mouth are not appropriate for an initial encounter and raise some serious red flags. Further, any guy who mentions not being interested in gold diggers during an initial conversation should also be avoided.
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The one who disappears for days then reappears
When online dating, you may be lucky enough to encounter a few magicians who have a tendency to disappear then reappear several days or weeks later without a valid reason. Oftentimes, these types are either in a secret relationship, have some other aspect of their life that they are covering up, or they’re just not that into you.
