Excuses don’t fix things
Sometimes, those who don’t heal themselves and do destructive things as a result try to say, “I’m sorry—I’m messed up.” Well, okay, but you did still smash that windshield, and have to pay for it. Or you did still slander that boss, and are now in a lawsuit. The world and its laws doesn’t, unfortunately, care that you have trauma. So not fixing it could cost you…literally cost you money or time in prison.