Do you live with emotional pain? Perhaps because somebody in the past hurt you. Someone cheated on you. A parent abandoned you. Your parents were critical or perhaps even, as terrible as it is to admit, abusive. Your family was always broke growing up. A parent went to prison, and everyone bullied you over it for your entire childhood. Life can be messed up like that. To live is to hurt. It’s also to be happy, to dance, to fall in love, to adventure, and a lot of other great things. But getting hurt, somewhere along the way, is pretty much inevitable. And just like when we have an untreated physical injury and we, perhaps, favor the other side of our body, and then our actions become uncoordinated and even dangerous, when we have untreated emotional wounds, we can behave out of sorts. One of the biggest things standing in the way of anyone who feels their life is a trash fire that never goes out is probably this: the understanding that healing yourself is 100 percent your responsibility. Here’s why.
Those who hurt you may not know it
You have to understand that anyone who did something truly bad to you in the past may not even realize how much they harmed you. If someone is capable of causing such emotional trauma, it’s likely because their own emotional IQ was low to begin with. So if your plan for feeling better is blaming the person who hurt you, and making them crumble under the guilt, it may not pan out. They may not have the ability to even grasp what they did.