“Ain’t no pain like from the opposite sex.” You may remember that lyric from a seriously old school Will Smith song called “Just The Two Of Us.” But I’d like to add an addendum to that line. Emotional pain inflicted by the opposite sex hurts a lot—yes—but I would argue that being at odds with one of your best friends hurts just as bad. You can’t sleep. You feel sick. It consumes your thoughts. It’s all you talk about to other people. Sounds a lot like the way you behave after a breakup or during a fight with a romantic partner, right? That’s because you and your besties are connected. You can’t feel at ease if there is upset in your close friendships. I’ve made a lot of mistakes in friendships over the years, and I really wish I’d been given some sort of handbook for friendship when I was younger. It may have prevented me from losing good friends. Here are words about friendship to tell your daughter.
Cherish childhood friends
Always put them first. Even if other exciting new friends come around, don’t blow off your childhood friends in favor of new ones. You have a proven track record with your childhood friends—you know that’s a friendship with staying power. So never turn your nose up at it to hang with somebody who seems more interesting, all because she’s novel. Nobody compares to a childhood friend.