No matter how old you are, holidays with divorced parents are always tough. Maybe you’re long past the phase of lamenting over what once was. Perhaps you haven’t yearned for that intact family unit for a long time. You went to therapy. You grew up. You found your romantic partner, and your family through friends. You’re okay with the fact that your parents aren’t together anymore. Maybe you even understand why it’s for the best. You aren’t cynical, because of your broken home. You have forgiven your parents. Nonetheless, that doesn’t change the fact that holidays with divorced parents are tough. There is this mad rush—this clamoring in which each parent wants to spend this very limited time with you. Through the rest of the year, it’s a bit less chaotic. You can visit one parent during some uneventful time, and the other during another random period. It’s okay. But not the holidays—during the holidays, you’re pulled in a million directions. Here are the realities of holidays with divorced parents.
They fight for your time
There is so much tension and discussion around splitting up the time evenly. If you’re only going to be in town for an odd number of days, let the fighting begin. You try to explain that if you stayed an extra day, the flight would cost you an exorbitant amount of money more. And while they get that, one person is now quite upset that they only get three days with you, while the other parent is getting four.