What Happens When You Start Giving More Than Taking

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Happy girls spending a day off together

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This post—and my recent life shift that it’s based on—was inspired by, of all things, the show “Queer Eye.” If you ever want a quick ego check, watch an episode. They tend to feature individuals who live for others—individuals who have very little sense of I or me, but rather of us. They’re often stories of individuals who were abandoned by the very community that is meant to be there for you (your family, you religion…) and who, rather than becoming angry, did what they could to make sure that as few people as possible ever had to go through that again. I think of an episode about a young transgender man whose family and religion rejected him due to his identity, who now has turned his humble home into a LGBTQ community center—it’s a small home, but he wanted to open it up to people like him. I think of an episode about a woman who turned her home into a hospice, giving up every room—including her own, she sleeps on the floor—so people could pass somewhere peacefully. And when I hear of these stories, I suddenly feel silly for obsessing over how many people hit like on my Instagram post. There’s nothing more worthwhile than helping others, and on that note, here is what happens when you start giving more than taking.


You feel your life is abundant

The funny thing about focusing on giving, is that you suddenly realize how abundant your life is. When you come from a perspective of, “How do I get more?” you always feel lacking. When you shift that perspective to, “What can I offer others?” you suddenly realize you have a lot.

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