Chrissy Teigen Thinks People Think She And John Legend Are Lame And Try Too Hard
If the worst thing people can say about your relationship is you seem to be trying too hard, then you’re probably doing something right. Though, in some cases, trying to make your relationship seem like something it’s not is a sure sign something’s wrong, in the case of John Legend and Chrissy Teigen, what may be perceived as trying too hard is really just the pair being themselves.
Chrissy and John appear on the December 2019 cover of Vanity Fair both individually and as a family with their daughter Luna and son Miles in what may be their most telling interview. The husband and wife who are each famous in their own right exchange stories of their professional fears and ambitions and share tales of childhood traumas (John’s mother becoming addicted to drugs and Chrissy’s mother moving back to Thailand away from her and her sister for several years while she was a teen), and fighting the political system, i.e. Trump. Even through the narratives you can see how in sync John and Chrissy are, a fact that the model said she imagines makes people think their relationship is phony.
“There are some famous couples I look at and I’m like, ‘Ugh, we get it. Stop trying so hard, you’re so lame.’ I think people definitely think that about us but…that’s because I think of everything,” Chrissy told Vanity Fair. It’s revelations like those that explain the 33-year-old’s caveat about bragging on her husband when she publicly shared John’s latest act of kindness on Twitter yesterday.
While society’s general penchant for cynicism is certainly reason enough for Chrissy to assume the public perception of her marriage is cheesy, it didn’t help that the 33-year-old used to read everything everyone had to say about her and John when they first started dating in 2007.
“He was kind of known at the time for either being in the closet or a modelizer,” she said. “I used to go on the websites and it was always either how I was his beard, or how he paid his past serious girlfriends, or how he was with some new model. Oh my god, I would read everything.”
Hopefully, that hasn’t completely changed, as Vanity Fair asked some of the famous insiders who are closest to the pair to comment on their relationship and the perception couldn’t be further from lame. Ava DuVernay who directed Selma which included the song “Glory” that won John Legend an Oscar told the mag: “I’ve been nourished by watching them. It’s just beautiful to see a real melding of their family life—their home life, those moments they curate with their children—side by side with real activist commentary about the way that they feel in the world.”
Brooklyn Decker who was a bridesmaid at the pair’s 2013 wedding said, “You know how some couples take years to allow themselves to be the fullest versions of themselves?” says Brooklyn Decker, who was a bridesmaid at their wedding. “Early on, there’s this knee-jerk habit to quiet the other, like, ‘No, no, no, don’t show that side of yourself.’ And then only decades later does each person say, ‘Well, I’m never going to change them.’ It’s always seemed to me that that’s just how they started their relationship.”
Finally, journalist Yashar Ali commented, “What makes them the perfect couple is their lack of interest in appearing to be perfect.”
Even writer Karen Valby’s observation of the pair is the antithesis of trying too hard. She wrote in her profile, “It is a rare thing to meet people who care about serious things but still manage not to take themselves too seriously, who accept the well-intentioned and messy totality of themselves enough to live a transparent life.”
Don’t overthink it Chrissy, you and John have nothing to worry about.