Amanda Seales has said it best: “I’m not for everyone.”
In an interview at Big Boy’s Neighborhood to promote her new book Small Doses: Potent Truths for Everyday Use, Amanda talked about a lot of the negativity and cancel culture she’s had to face because of her famously strong opinions. And while she says that she’s at times tried not to step on toes, she can’t help it if people take what she says the wrong way.
“I do think that you also realize, there’s nothing you can do. Some people are just dedicated to misunderstanding you. It just is, and for a number of reasons that may not have anything to do with what you’re saying,” she said. “But I definitely try to be thoughtful, but I’m also a certain kind of person. I am somebody who’s very direct, I have a deep voice, I have a loud voice, I’m articulate. All of these things can add up to something that can feel abrasive to some ears…I think there’s a lot of energy spent reacting to me because I’m something they’ve never seen.”
A lot of that reaction comes from the fact that she’s a woman who doesn’t hold her tongue. The 38-year-old pointed out though that if she were a man saying the same things, she would be embraced.
“If I was a dude, I would live a different existence. If I was me, if I was a dude, I would have a different existence. Like for real for real, I know that for a fact,” she said. “All my boys be saying that all of the time: ‘If you was a dude, this way that you speak would be considered a boss.'”
And while a male version of herself would be applauded for telling it like it is, people have labeled her a lot of less than positive things instead.
“That dude is hella declarative. Whereas when you’re a woman it’s like, ‘Yo, she’s hella angry. She’s hella negative. She’s just too much! She’s too, too much!”
With that being said though, Amanda isn’t changing, not because she’s found quite a few people in her own community to not be so fond of her, and not even after that whole post-Emmys party drama that turned even uglier earlier this month.
“I know for the Black folks who don’t like me, it doesn’t change the fact that I love you,” she said. “I have to love us. I just have to love us.”
“I’m just so addicted to truth-telling and wanting to feel like that honesty is necessary and I will choose that over my own welfare and people don’t understand that,” she added.
So she will continue to do things her way, speaking her mind and sharing her honest stories, whether people think she should be sharing them or not.
“They’ll tell me, you’re light skinned so you shouldn’t talk about being a Black woman. I’m like, well I am a Black woman. I’m a certain type of Black woman but I speak about my experience to create space for other Black women to speak about their unique experiences,” she said. “If there’s anything that we know, it’s that Blackness is not a monolith, and that all Black experiences are Black experiences, unless they’re anti-Black.”
She’ll also continue to do these things with her bold brand of confidence.
“Once you talk and you talk with assuredness, it offends people,” she said. “If you talk like you know something, they want you to say ‘I think.’ Well, there’s some things I don’t think, I know. So I say it just like that.”