What Not To Say To Stay-At-Home Moms
Did you know there’s an epidemic of women who are afraid to admit they want to be stay at home moms? I’ve seen it with my own eyes. I’ll meet a group of women, everyone will go around, saying what they do, and then we’ll get to one woman who seems sheepish—she looks down, she scratches her ear, and she says, while batting her hand at the air as if it’s not worth mentioning, “Oh, I’m just a stay at home mom.” Just a stay at home mom?! There is nothing “just” about that. That is hard work! But I can understand how SAHMs have been pressured to feel like they have to play down what they do. Our generation is very much about women can do whatever they want…except be a stay at home mom. I’ve heard the way working moms and working women who don’t have kids talk about stay at home moms. Have we forgotten that, if the spirit of women can do whatever they want is real, then shouldn’t that also mean being a stay at home mom? I think so. So, on that note, here are things to stop saying to stay at home moms—it’s a bit condescending.
You must get so much time with your kids
Yes, but it’s not exactly quality time. It’s chasing them around, making them eat, making them take their naps, and getting in all the little micro fights that occur during the day. When dad gets home, he gets the tuckered-out, well-behaved munchkins that mom wrangled into obedience.