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In part two of the “Finding The One” series, I talked to Marissa and Marcus, whose paths collided at a birthday party.
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How did you meet your girlfriend? 

We met at a mutual friend’s birthday party, and Marissa actually thought I was interested in her sister who was also in attendance. As they were leaving, she could tell that I was trying to quickly say my goodbyes as well. So she lingered a little longer, and made sure to hold the elevator so I could catch up to them. She even walked a step behind as they walked down the block, so the two of us could talk more directly( I don’t remember it that way, but Marissa is convinced). So we went our separate ways after that.

A few days later, we ended up at the same mutual friend’s house again, pregaming for a night out on the town. I asked our mutual friend what was up with her friend, and she asked which one. I said, “The one that went to Spelman,” referring to Marissa. Later that night, at the party, I was standing in the DJ booth and could see Marissa with a group of girls down on the dance floor. After quite a bit of liquid courage, and knowing I had to leave for another event, I decided to approach her. I don’t remember exactly what I said to her, but it ended with Marissa saying, “You won’t know until you shoot your shot!” To make a long story short, we exchanged numbers and ended up on a date a week later.

How long have you two been dating?
3 years
Who were your biggest influences in regards to love, dating, and relationships? 
I don’t have many yet any at all. I do use the things my parents did wrong based on the fact that they got divorced when I was two. I knew exactly what I didn’t want in my relationship.
What has your relationship taught you? 
It has taught me that everything is bigger than you. It definitely is a partnership. You should consult your partner about all the things that you want to do.
When did you know that you were in love? What are your thoughts on finding ‘the one?’
It was intuition. It was a comfort level. I knew she was the one for me, because I could be my fullest self. We could have open discussions about anything, agree/disagree and still push forward . We supported each other’s professional goals and ambitions, in addition. I can only speak for my situation, but I feel like that’s how you know you’ve met ‘the one.’
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