How To Tell If You’re Ready For Another Baby
While there’s no such thing as the perfect time to have a baby, there are so many factors to consider before trying to conceive a second, third, or even fourth time around. Some may even argue that making the decision to have more children is even more complicated than deciding to have the first. Do you and your partner actually want another child? Can your relationship handle the added responsibility? Is there enough money and space to accommodate another person? If you’ve been grappling with the idea of expanding your family, look no further. Here are 11 signs that you’re ready to have another baby.
Finances have loosened up
Every parent knows that children are expensive. One question to ask yourself when you’re considering expanding your family is whether or not you have the financial resources to comfortably support another child. A great way to get a true snapshot of your financial situation is to create a spreadsheet that lays out your monthly expenses and income.
You no longer feel desperately strapped for time
A rule of thumb when it comes to mindful family planning is that you don’t want to have more children than you have time and resources. Raising children is definitely not all about money. Time is equally important.
You’ve solidified a routine the feels manageable
The first few months or even years of welcoming a new baby can be a bit hectic. But eventually, you fall into a routine that works. Once you hit a sweet spot, it might be a good time to consider expanding your family.
Your other children have gained some level of independence
My aunties love to say that when one child begins to acquire independence, they’re moving out of the way for the next kid in line. I often cringe when they say this, but there could be a bit of truth to this notion if you’re looking for signs that you’re ready to add to your family.
Both you and your partner want one
In many cases, one partner feels that they are ready for another baby while the other is perfectly content with the way that things are. When both parties are on the same page, it could be a great sign that it’s time to expand.
You feel mentally and emotionally equipped to take on additional responsibilities
Raising children is both mentally and emotionally taxing. From a psychological standpoint, are you equipped to take on the additional responsibilities of a second child or third child?
You have the space to accommodate a new addition
For some families, having enough space to accommodate multiple children is a major factor when it comes to family planning. In addition to the obvious necessities such as having a place for the new baby to sleep and play, do you also have enough space for all of the baby gear you’ll need to take care of your new little one?
You recognize that your lifestyle may need to change
Having another baby sounds great until you step back and take inventory of how much your life will need to change as a result. Navigating life with one kid has its challenges, but juggling two children — especially two small children — will alter your lifestyle drastically.
You feel secure in your relationship
Sometimes we fool ourselves into believing that the joy of a new baby will solve our relationship problems when in actuality, the stress of caring for an infant can temporarily (or permanently, in some cases) cause more problems. However, if you’re feeling solid, satisfied, and confident in the stability of your relationship, it could be a good time to start planning for a new addition.
You and your partner are in good health
Many physicians recommend that couples begin preparing their bodies up to a year before trying to conceive. Some of the recommendations include establishing a healthy weight, exercising regularly, establishing a healthy diet, minimizing stress, and reducing caffeine intake.
Your motives for having another kid are not purely based on emotion
Baby fever is great, but what are your other motives are driving your desire to expand your family? Are they rooted in practicality as well as emotion?