If you have a child with a man with whom you are no longer romantically involved, you know, somewhere in the back of your mind, that some day, you’ll both find new partners. You also know, deep, deep down in your gut, that it’ll be a very complicated time that may bring you quite a bit of turmoil. But you try not to think about it because co-parenting is complicated enough as it is. You won’t both remain single forever, though. It’s only natural you low-key hope that you’re the first one to find somebody new, but sometimes that’s not how things go. It’s not how it went in the case of my singe-mom friend, who has been going through the trials and tribulations of having her kid’s dad remarry somebody new. Here’s a look at what that confusing change can be like for both the parents, the child, and the new stepparent.
She may want more parenting control
The new stepmom may want more say in the parenting. Before, when she was just the dad’s girlfriend, it felt totally natural to tell her to stay out of parenting your child. But now, as stepmother, she may feel she has some say in how your kid is parented.