How To Know If Someone Wants To Be With You Longterm Or Just For Cuffing Season
The chill in the air signals one thing–cuffing season. Cuffing season is a time when lonely singles come together to ensure they won’t be too cold during the winter months. Some people seek out a seasonal bae in order to have someone attend the holiday parties and group ski trips with. Folks start hunting for a new boo to cuff sometime around Labor Day. After the holiday, not only does the weather change but so do people’s attitudes as people start to opt to stay in more than go out.
When you meet someone around this time, it can be really hard to gauge if this new partner wants you longterm or if they are just looking for a warm body to heat up the cold winter months.
Matchmaker and CEO of Exclusive Matchmaking Susan Trombetti told Elite Daily that we don’t need to lookout cuffing season any different than any other time of year–people hook up and fall out all the time, no matter what the weather is.
“They say some people come into your life for different reasons and seasons,” Trombetti said. “With cuffing, it’s no different, and it’s for two seasons only: fall and winter.”
But if you’re worried about your new bae only being a temporary bae, there are some signs you can pay attention to. Seasonal cuffers keep things super casual and refuse to make longterm plans. They also won’t be so keen on taking you out, and may suggest constant Netflix and Chill nights.
“It feels relaxed with no pressure,” Trombetti said. “After all curling up on the couch with someone is cozy and romantic. Who says they have to be ‘The One’?”
If you know you’re looking for something longterm, it’s okay to make that clear to the person you’re dating upfront–because they may not tell you what your intentions are. There’s no wrong approach to this, but it is important to have compatible visions.
“Your cuffing partner might just come out and say that this is what they want,” Trombetti said. “There is nothing wrong with this, and there are all sorts of relationships nowadays. Not everything is about the finish line.”