Having an argument with a person you like or love is obviously never fun. And I mean really having it: hashing it out, saying what you need to say, speaking hard truths, and truly having a confrontation. Confrontation is uncomfortable. If you aren’t great at conflict resolution, then perhaps you do whatever you can to get out of having an argument. You tell yourself that you’re not actually mad. But then why have you been lashing out at that person and giving her the cold shoulder? You tell yourself that you’ll just get over it. But then, why again have you not gotten over it after several months now? If someone hurts you or upsets you, the only way to get past it is to go through the argument. Here are reasons to stop procrastinating that argument.
The other person is probably clueless
The other person is very likely clueless to the fact that she upset you. Most people go through life doing what they think is the right thing, and not thinking of all the ways they may have accidentally upset someone. If you don’t tell this person, she’ll never know what’s going on.