Angelica Ross’ Mother Told Her “You Need To Kill Yourself Or I’m Going To Kill Myself” When She Came Out As Trans
When Angelica Ross came out to her mother as trans, the response was devastating.
“It was really hard, in the beginning, my mom was definitely not at all accepting in the beginning,” the Pose actress shared during an upcoming episode of OWN Spotlight: Black Women OWN The Conversation. “My mom had her ideas that were fueled from the Bible and what the Bible says.”
Ross’ mother, who was also present for the taping, admits that her strict religious beliefs led her to do the unthinkable: telling her child to commit suicide.
“It was strict, so when Angelica came out to me, it was devastating,” she shared. “I couldn’t work. I was seeing a psychologist. I was on Zoloft. I had medication because I couldn’t take it and I did tell her, ‘You need to kill yourself or I’m going to kill myself.'”
In retrospect, Ross’ mom regrets missing out on so much of her daughter’s life.
“It’s always preached that you’re going to hell,” she went on. “You’re going to hell for this. You’re going to hell for that. I wasn’t knowledgeable. I didn’t know. And I hate that I missed so many years out of her life.”
Ironically, what led to her change of heart was an Oprah-led production that shed light on the story of a woman who lost her child before they were able to make amends.
“It was showing how this lady lost her child and she ended up going to this Pride thing,” she shared. “They showed her son up in the sky as if he was looking down. So I said, ‘I gotta do something because that could be my kid.”
These days, Ross says that she has a beautiful relationship with her mother that was restored once they both committed to the healing process.
“We have a great relationship,” said Ross. “We have a very loving, healed relationship. My mom, now we share clothes. She presses my hair. She steals my clothes.”
Watch the clip below and catch the full discussion during the next episode of “OWN Spotlight: Black Women OWN The Conversation,” which airs Saturday, September 7 at 10 pm on OWN.