Signs That Show Your New Boo May Not Be Over Their Ex
Dating a brand new person can be a mixed bag of excitement and anxiety. You are quickly learning their likes and dislikes. Your finding out where you all are compatible and where you clash. And in the midst of all that discovery, you also have to find out if you all are aligned in terms of where you want this new connection to go.
If your new honey just broke up with their ex, they may be hesitant when it comes to taking a leap forward, and you should be too. CEO and founder of heartbreak recovery app Mend Elle Huerta told Elite Daily that the time it takes to heal from a past relationship varies, but any amount of time “off” is helpful.
“It’s helpful to have time after a breakup to redefine a sense of self, outside of a relationship, and that timeframe varies for everyone,” Huerta explained.
“There’s no magic formula for knowing when [someone is fully] ready.”
But there are ways to tell when someone is not ready–for example, if they are still mending from the hurt, you might feel like you are walking on a landmine.
“If someone recently ended a relationship, the person might be constantly reminded of good times together — or bad,” sex and intimacy coach Irene Fehrpreviously told Elite Daily. “It might feel like everything is a trigger to some memory. They might bring it up or you might feel them drifting away and getting lost in the memory.”
Also pay attention to how they discuss their ex–are there still lingering feelings or resentment about the bond ending?
“If they talk about their ex often, bring up their ex in conversation, or get emotional about their ex, they might still be attached to their ex,” host of the breakup BOOST podcast, Trina Leckie explained.
Also take a look around their space–if they still have old photos up, or hold on to little gifts they got from them, you may want to pump the breaks and give them some space to move through their emotions before starting something new.