How We Use Fresh Starts To Avoid Our Flaws
“A fresh start.” Sounds nice, right? But when was the last time you heard someone use that term? Who last told you that she needed a fresh start? I’d bet good money on the possibility that it was somebody leaving some drama. Maybe a crappy relationship. Maybe a living situation where things had turned sour with a roommate. Perhaps a job, where all of her coworkers “suddenly” hated her “for no reason.” I’d be willing to guess something else about this person: she needs fresh starts a lot. Using the term “fresh start” almost doesn’t apply to her life because she doesn’t stick around in any situation long enough for it to become stale. That’s the thing about fresh starts—they are often a crutch for individuals who are unwilling to do personal work or reflect on their mistakes. Do you use fresh starts to avoid your own flaws? Here are some ways it’s possible.
The same old relationship
Those who repeat the same patterns in relationships are often looking for a fresh start. Maybe someone is always attracted to the a**hole, narcissistic types, then she becomes angry that she can’t squeeze a drop of love or tenderness out of them, then it all turns into a screaming match. Maybe plates are smashed and tires are slashed. Perhaps someone keeps finding broken men she thinks she can save, but winds up feeling tired of playing a therapist. Even though…she knew he was depressed when she entered this thing.