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Why does love hurt so much?

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After the 2016 election, a few married couples took to social media to express their concerns over their partner’s affiliation with Donald Trump’s political ideologies.

However, in the last three years, with Trump’s doubling down on the defensive, racist and xenophobic messages he spews about, several more couples’ relationship has been put to the test, in essence for better or for worse. These tensions can be compounded even more when one partner is white and the other is Black.

On Saturday, a Black woman who goes by the name @GlassButtefly9 on Twitter wrote the following expressing her frustrations on her imploding marriage.

“My white Republican husband is starting to hate me because the longer we live through this administration the “BLACKER” I become. Any interracially and opposing politically affiliated couples going through this? Like…I have NO idea how to balance who we are..or are becoming,” she wrote.


She claims that her affinity for her culture would be the last thing that her husband would be attracted to, according to his political positions.

“I fake dreaded my hair…I wear African garb….I talk about the GOOD FIGHT. I’m the LAST person he wants to be involved with. If this is a test…HE is failing miserably,” she wrote.

As the responses to her tweet flooded in, she continued writing that Trump’s messages are dividing families across America.

However, her tone became defensive once the barrages of responses continued to file in. “He’s not the greatest communicator…I’m left with just my feelings. I love him…I know he loves me and for the black delegation with all the hate spewing…shame on you and I’ll be praying goodness eventually finds your heart. This world is filled with too much hate already!” she wrote.

At the core, it seems this particular couple needs much more care and attention than commentary on social media can provide. The intersections of race, class and personal politic is a necessary discussion to have, especially if you are in an interracial relationship.

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