How To Teach Your Daughter To Ask For What She Wants

September 2, 2019  |  
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Did you know that only 12 percent of billionaires are women? Furthermore, 73 percent of male billionaires made their own wealth, while only 27 percent of female billionaires can call themselves self-made. I don’t love those numbers. But, I have my suspicions as to why it happens. I don’t think we teach our daughters to ask for what they want enough. I think, perhaps, we’ve encouraged being polite and sympathetic over being assertive and self-promoting. Of course, a person can be both, but I fear we’ve erred too far on the side of making sure our daughters are pleasant for others, rather than advocates for themselves. I experience it—I see that the world has that bias. I’ve been called “bossy” or “pushy” for asking for what I want, while, when a man asked for the same thing, he was called assertive. Furthermore, women who are successful can immediately be called negligent mothers or spouses. The focus goes back to those other roles. It has to stop. Here are ways to teach your daughter to ask for what she wants and advocate for herself.



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Have her introduce herself to friends

From a young age, encourage her to introduce herself to friends. When you take her to a park or children’s center, have her walk up to the other children and say hello. It’s important to do this from a young age because it instills self-confidence, and removes fear around the unknown (something you just can’t have if you’re going to be a boss lady).

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