I notice a common and steadfast difference between those who succeed and those who do not: the latter are full of excuses and the former…aren’t. That’s not to say that people who are successful have never faced a challenge. Of course they have. There are a lot of successful people who didn’t go to college, are of a minority that’s generally discriminated against in their industry, or didn’t have parents who believed in them. They probably bumped up against the ways in which these factors set them back many, many times. But they didn’t see them as insurmountable challenges. Or, they thought, “Well. I’ll persist anyways. I’ll be the one who thrives in spite of that.” They didn’t dwell on the obstacle. Then I, unfortunately, have a few family members who haven’t made an inch—nay, not even a millimeter—of progress on their goals in years due to a dozen perceived slights and wrongdoings towards them. I want to tell them, “So keep going anyways.” Here is why blaming others for your setbacks isn’t productive or healthy.
It changes nothing
Even if you are 110 percent correct that your setback is somebody else’s fault, it doesn’t change anything. You don’t get the thing you wanted by correctly identifying the person who stood in your way of getting it. Life doesn’t work like that. There are many times when we are correct—that our parents didn’t teach us this enough or that this person sabotaged us—and then what? Nothing. Nothing changes.