Failure to succeed is often discussed. It’s a common and understood concept. But I believe there is a part of that fear that isn’t talked about enough, and is maybe the main issue for many individuals, and that is this: failure to be the type of person who succeeds. For many (including me) it isn’t the success that frightens us, but the many micro decisions we’ll have to make along the way, and how those might challenge our core values. There are a lot of highly successful individuals out there who don’t exactly give greatness a good reputation. We can all think of a few. They have major egos. They are narcissists. They are selfish. They are pushy. They are manipulative. And it makes sense: some degree of egotism must exist if you’re going to achieve greatness. Those who do achieve success believed they could do what few people can. Of course there is some ego there. But it doesn’t have to be all or nothing—narcissistic a**hole or humble doormat. There’s a middle ground. That being said, are you letting humility get in the way of success?
You nominate others instead of yourself
When an opportunity arises for advancement, you first look around you—not at yourself—for a nominee. You don’t throw your name into the hat. That feels egotistical to you. That feels selfish. You think of all the others who deserve it more or who are more prepared.