It’s always interesting getting a close look into the lives and dynamics of another family. When you’re with a family, in their home, they’re as comfortable as can be—whatever that means. Remember that some families just aren’t ever comfortable with one another. Nonetheless, we grow up thinking that all families operate pretty much in the ways that ours do. But when you make that first best friend and start sleeping regularly at her house, you learn that that isn’t true. And when you later get into a serious relationship with a man whose family lives in town (so you spend plenty of time with them) you really see how differently other families work. I come from a rather reserved family. Everyone is very diplomatic. We don’t really fight so much as we slowly, quietly, through a dozen little calculated moves over months, work out an unpleasant dynamic without really ever addressing it head-on. So, when I got involved with a man with a very communicative family, it was a culture shock. Here’s what to expect if marrying into a very communicative family.
You’ll know your weight very well
They’ll reach a level of comfort with you that they have with their kids, and that means that when you walk in the door, they’ll let you know what’s up with your weight. Comments like “Somebody’s been enjoying a few too many wine and cheese nights” or “Why are you so skinny? What’s wrong?” will be lobbed your way.