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self care day

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I experienced this undeniable restlessness recently. I had just met a friend for drinks, we’d wrapped up rather early, and as I was driving home I really just wanted to pull over and buy myself a drink. Alone. It was such a strong urge. I just wanted to sit on one of the many restaurant patios filled with people this time of year, by myself, and just be. I didn’t want to rush home to my live-in boyfriend. It had nothing to do with not wanting to spend time with him so much as it had to do with wanting to spend time with myself. I knew once I got home, we’d go over the details of our days. There would be some tidying up to do. Life would take over and I just wanted a little space, and a little time, that was all my own. So I did it, and now I’m making a habit of it. Here are reasons you should take yourself on more dates.


No taking on other people’s stuff

Meeting up with friends for dinner or drinks is nice, but you do take on their stuff. Whatever they’re going through—marriage or work issues—you hear about it. You counsel them. You download the feelings and experiences the other person is having, which can actually leave you a little tired. On a date with yourself, you don’t take on anyone’s stuff.

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