Do you remember the nineties when many romantic comedies were about women who absolutely idolized brides, weddings, and the idea of getting married? There was “The Best Man,” “The Wood,” “The Wedding Planner,” “My Best Friend’s Wedding,” “The Wedding Singer,” and “Four Weddings and a Funeral.” It seemed every romantic comedy of the time had the word “Wedding” in its title. Can you imagine if today a romantic comedy came out in which the main character was a woman who wanted nothing more than to be a bride? We’d all gag for a moment. Today romantic comedies are more about drunken one-night-stands that turn into babies out of wedlock and divorcees deflowering 40-year-old virgins. Things have shifted substantially. I think it’s overall a good thing that weddings have been deemphasized, but sometimes I wonder: are we a generation that’s become disenchanted with weddings? I see the signs everywhere.
We tease engagement photos
I hear people do it all of the time: making fun of the engagement photos a couple puts up. The coordinated outfits. The windy beach setting. The longing gazes. When friends see these I don’t hear a lot of “How gorgeous” so much as I hear a lot of, “Sure, that looks natural—she stares off at the ocean while her hair whips across her face and he looks at her intensely. Everybody sits like that at the beach.”