Love Does Cost A Thing: Millennials Believe Dating Is Too Expensive
In a lot of ways, the art of dating has died. Courting is now replaced with DMs and dinner and a movie is something more like “Netflix and chill.” While some of the dating decline can be attributed to general laziness, for some millennials, dating is hard because there just isn’t enough money to fund the activities.
According to a statistic from the Singles in America survey, 30% of millennials feel their dating life is impacted by their financial stability, USA Today reports.
Lack of steady or lucrative income halts millennial’s readiness for relationship across the board. Modern adults are struggling under the weight of student debt, costs of living, and a dating app culture where hook-ups are more the norm than longterm relationships. All of these factors contribute to millennials’ opting out of the whole practice, period.
“Millennials are very ambitious. They are terrified of catching feelings and getting into relationships that they can’t (financially or mentally) manage,” Dr. Helen Fisher told USA Today. She referred to the way millennials date as “slow-love.”
“Two-thirds of people in their 20s still live at home,” Fisher continued, “not because they are lazy but because they are saving their money and they really feel that they need to get their career and finances in order before they marry.”
Fisher said the expectations around modern dating are a lot more involved now then they were when she was growing up.
“We went out and played miniature golf, ate fast food, or rode around in someone’s car. Or you met people in the park and talked and drank beer. Dating wasn’t expensive,” she said.
And perhaps, if we allow first dates again to be coffee dates, walks through the park, or networking events, the pressure to bust a budget for love would be alleviated and a true connection could flow.