Tami Roman says after realizing that those behind Basketball Wives only showed her at war with her cast mates, as opposed balancing things out to showcase the positive things she would do and was involved in over the years, she decided to change her behavior on the show so producers would have nothing detrimental to work with.
The 49-year-old visited TV One’s The D.L. Hughley Show last week and was asked about her years being “attached” to conflict on the show. She said sometimes the drama is inevitable, but she wishes they were more fair when it comes to what ends up on the show.
“If you take any circle of friends and you put a camera in their face all of the time, inevitably there’s going to be one situation where something goes down, right? So for us, we’re filming for six, seven months at a time and production’s waiting on that one moment that that happens so that that is what is they can use for the supertrailer, that’s what they can make the whole season about, and it’s unfortunate because they don’t show enough balance of us getting along.”
She also noted that people tune in for the drama, whether it creates a bad image for Black women or not. However, starting near the end of Season 7 and throughout the current eighth season, she’s made a conscious effort to avoid drama and only exhibit the good things about herself and her family.
“That’s what people want to see and it’s everybody’s guilty pleasure, but the responsibility that I took within myself was, I watched myself. Just like everybody else watched, I watched myself. I said, ‘Okay, so since you guys aren’t going to show the other side and all the wonderful things I do with philanthropy, and my charities and my children and my relationship with my mom, then I’m going to make the changes,'” she said. I’m going to be in control of the narrative. I had to take responsibility for the imagery that I was putting out.”
“We do have a right to say — like at our reunion. Y’all acting crazy, y’all cursing, y’all doing all that? I’m not staying,” she added.
Roman shared a clip from her interview with Hughley on Instagram, and when someone pointed out that she couldn’t blame producers for the behavior she was putting out there, she agreed and said that’s why she changed.
“I never said I didn’t act a fool, hence my statement ‘I watched myself’ as well as my caption above… what I said was they don’t balance the BS with the other side of things,” she wrote. “I absolutely did what I did but once I became cognizant of the one dimensional presentation year after year, I opted to shift the narrative for myself (especially after my mom passed). People always try to skew what I say to be an attack on something that blessed me. It’s not. It’s me acknowledging I wasn’t flowing properly within the blessing and I wanted to be responsible and change… not only for me but for the people impacted thru viewing.”
This isn’t the first time Roman has talked about being concerned about how her TV image was affecting her and her loved ones.
“I don’t want to not be able to provide for my children. But now when I try to go out and have other opportunities and other revenue streams, people don’t want that girl associated with their projects,” she said in 2018. “And then it hurts my daughters that people think of me a certain way. My daughter Jazz does music. It took us forever to get her signed because she’s my kid. It’s always a challenge but I don’t know how to make it better.”
Sounds like she finally found a way.