What are you supposed to do when you don’t like your good friend’s boyfriend? Alright, when you hate your good friend’s boyfriend? There may be no situation trickier or topic more fragile. You know your friend is protective of her relationship. You know how hard it was for her to meet someone. You were there to cheer her up after all of the terrible first dates, the relationships that barely got off the ground, and the multi-month flings that she really thought were going somewhere. So who are you to tell her to throw this one back? Besides, who knows how many things you’ve done of which she hasn’t approved. She never said anything. She didn’t want you to feel judged. She wanted you to feel supported. And you want her to feel that way. But you can’t stand being around her boyfriend. Should you say something? Here are things to consider.
Does he bother you on purpose?
Does this guy know that he bothers you? Do you think he picks up on the fact that his behavior rubs you the wrong way? And does he do it anyways? Does he perhaps seem to like that he bothers you? If any of that sounds true, then you should say something because a man who really loves your friend would never want to upset her friends.