Where would we be without our siblings? Nobody quite understands you like your brother or sister. Even if you don’t always get along, even if you sometimes want to pull one another’s hair out, and even if you’ve sometimes needed time apart, the truth remains that nobody quite gets your struggles, flaws, and strengths like your sibling. Your sibling grew up under the same household as you, witnessing the most important years of your life—the years when you had your most influential experiences and went through things that would form the basis for your personality forever. Whether you had wonderful parents or nightmare parents, your sibling had the same parents, so she knows where you’re coming from. To have a relationship with our sibling is to have a better relationship with yourself because, in a way, she’s a mirror. We all get busy, and some events drive us apart, but do what you can to reconnect with your siblings. Here are ways to strengthen those important relationships.
Spend a day in her life
If you can, just tag along for a day in your sibling’s life. You don’t need to plan some special activity that pulls her out of her daily obligations in order to spend time together. Just go to her home and hang out. See what happens around her house. You’ll learn about some of her daily struggles in domestic tasks, with her neighbors, and every other little detail that goes on in one’s day. Simply being a fly on the wall—and offering a hand when she needs it—will make you far more empathetic to her experiences.