Every longterm relationship can fall victim to a romantic lull. Long days at the office mixed with chores and responsibilities can have people feeling less than sexy.
But relationships take work, and if you’re not putting in the time to add spice and adventure to your partnership, you mind find yourself unhappy, or single, soon.
“Flirting keeps the romantic connection alive and helps prevent you from taking your partner or relationship for granted,” Jillian Yuhas, MA, MFT, CPC, a licensed family and marriage therapist and co-founder of Entwined Lifestyle, told Bustle.
“All relationships will have their ups and downs, but the best way to deepen the connection is to show your partner how much you love them through romantic, thoughtful gestures,” she explains.
Here are a couple tips to keep your relationship fresh while dating longterm.
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Dating and courting can never stop. Even if you and your partner are a decade deep into your relationship, you should find ways to surprise the other.
“Even if you’re just eating takeout food at home, improve the atmosphere with candles, china, and silverware,” Tina B. Tessina, PhD, a psychotherapist and author of Dr. Romance’s Guide to Finding Love Today, told Bustle.
“Serve your partner like a guest.”
Continuing, “Even if you’re just eating takeout food at home, improve the atmosphere with candles, china, and silverware,” Tessina said.
In the same vein as courting, if gifts is your partners love language, don’t miss out on an opportunity to spoil them.
“Surprise your partner with flowers, a card, balloons, or candy on a day that’s not a special occasion,” Tessina advised.
“Use your best courting behavior, and turn on your charm,” she adds. “This works because it shows your partner that you’re in love as much as you used to be.”
To ramp up the romance, start writing love notes to your mate. These can be sexy, word foreplay notes, or just a “thank you.”
“Secretly leaving love notes creates spontaneity and an element of surprise,” Jillian Yuhas, MA, MFT, CPC, a licensed family and marriage therapist and co-founder of Entwined Lifestyle, told Bustle.
“This gesture will keep your partner thinking about you all day without letting the relationship slip through the cracks of everyday life tasks.” Yuhas adds.