For Ester Dean, the key to happiness, success, and prosperity is all about obsession. We’re all obsessing over something, but according to the 37-year-old songwriter, the trick is to use that energy obsessing over the right things.
“God is so good,” Dean gushed to Madame Noire during a recent appearance on “In This Room.” “You have to get obsessed about your happiness. Some people get so obsessed with their failures and so obsessed with their sadness. You have to get obsessed with being happy. A lot of people pass that over because they’re obsessed with why they’re so sad. It takes a lot of you to succeed. Show yourself that you can feel good alone, that you can bring your own joy.”
For the “Drop It Low” singer, this revelation came to her after watching Rhonda Byrnes’ The Secret, a self-help film on the law of attraction.
“I get obsessed with what I want. When I watched The Secret on the law of attraction, I got obsessed,” she shared. “I didn’t understand why it was working. And then I’d pass it on to my family and friends and it didn’t work for them. I didn’t understand why not so I started doing more research.”
Of course, this doesn’t mean the “Rude Boy” writer’s life was without struggle. She has certainly had her share of valley experiences, but her unwillingness to allow her circumstances to keep her from pursuing her dreams is what allowed her to overcome.
“I was on Section 8. It’s crazy. When I say ‘humble beginnings,’ it’s not easy for most Black people. So I didn’t come from humble beginnings, I came up like everybody else. I just utilized that burning desire to be better.”
Dean adds that she didn’t stop after discovering The Secret. She continued to find ways to “grow as a person.”
“I get obsessed with knowledge. I get obsessed with thoughts of how I can get something that everyone thinks I shouldn’t have,” she confessed.
In fact, this mindset is what led the songstress to her latest gig, “Songland,” which airs Tuesdays on NBC
“Like, this TV show is crazy. Nobody said the songwriter was going to write songs so well, and so many of them, that they would be on NBC. How did she get there? They can’t tell because I’m jumping. But they don’t know what I’m doing at night. I’m thinking. I’m obsessing. I’m studying. I’m changing myself. I’m changing my ways. I’m changing my thinking. I’m loving myself. I’m accepting myself.”
No one is perfect, but instead of merely stressing about what’s wrong with you, Dean advises adjusting your focus by obsessing over making those things right.