Earlier this month, while appearing on The D.L. Hughley Show, actress Meagan Good shared that despite the fact that her husband is a part-time preacher, she doesn’t go to church with him as often as she would like. The reason for this is because the church folks she has encountered haven’t welcomed her with open arms. Overall, she said that sadly, her experiences haven’t been positive.
“It’s unfortunate because we’re supposed to be the biggest lovers. And it’s like even if you disagree with someone or you don’t think what they’re doing is right, you’re supposed to mind your own business and pray for that person. Other times, you’re supposed to correct in love if that’s what God told you to do. And there was no correction in love. It was like a complete assault,” she said.
While addressing her comments on The Real late last week, Adrienne Houghton stated that she could relate to feeling less than embraced by some so-called Christians. Being married to famous gospel singer Israel Houghton has made her a fresh target for people who feel she needs to look and carry herself in a certain way. It has also brought on negativity from other people who she says call her “fake religious” because of her partner. The 35-year-old admitted it’s been hard.
“I’ve talked to you guys about this. I get it pretty bad,” she said. “I think I take that and I never complain about it because at the end of the day, it’s like what Tam said: I’m not here for you, I’m here for Jesus. I feel God’s love every day in my life. I feel like people don’t realize church is like a hospital. It’s for the broken people, it’s not for the ones who are already saved. We need Jesus, so instead of pushing us away, you should accept us with open arms. If you see somebody doing something wrong, be an example of God’s love. They say ‘Come as you are,’ but do you make people feel that way? And I have found places and churches and incredible people who actually just don’t call themselves Christians, but they are Christ-like in the way they love people. So I’m grateful for that and I also don’t make excuses for myself. I’m not perfect. I still have a ways to go in my walk with Christ. I was raised Pentecostal, and a lot of people don’t know that and a lot of people say, ‘Well she married Israel, now all of a sudden she’s talking about Jesus.’ Jesus has been in my life since the day I was born. I was dedicated to God. But that’s not for me to prove to you.”
The opinions of others do matter to Houghton though, because she revealed that she does think long and hard about her attire these days not because of what people will say about her, but how they will come for her husband.
“I’m not going to front. I try now even to be conscious of it,” she said. “Jeannie gets mad at me for it. She always tells me don’t change who you are. But I am conscious of it, not so much for myself but for my husband. Y’all could talk all you want about me, but you’re not going to talk about him. That’s how I feel, so I try to be mindful when it comes to him.”
Despite her best efforts, if people still take issue with what she wears, says or does, she would encourage them to pray for her and let God handle the rest.
“Let people have their own conviction,” she said. “Maybe be quiet and pray for them and maybe God will speak to them and tell them, what I wore was wrong. And I’m going to be honest, even when I choose things I wear I’m like, ‘Ok, is this less than a bathing suit that I would choose to wear at a place?’ Even that, maybe people have issues with. That’s for me, what I feel comfortable with in the moment. I have those conversations with my husband. And again, if you feel I’ve done something wrong, pray for me and maybe God will speak to me and maybe make me recognize where I’m wrong. But that’s again, for me and Christ to have that conversation, not for you.”