Struggling To Wrap Your Mind Around Hiring A Housekeeper
My partner and I have been discussing finally hiring a housekeeper. We have been so stubborn about doing everything ourselves for so long, that it can be very hard to admit that we could use a little help in keeping our place tidy. But as life gets busier, and as we have both put aside some money, it is starting to seem ridiculous that we bend over backwards, using all of our rare free moments, cleaning our place. We can afford to hire someone, and a professional maid service would certainly do a much better job than we do. Truth be told, even after we have been cleaning for several hours, I still fear what my mother would say if she came to visit. We just can’t make our place look spotless the way professionals can. But I understand that for some, hiring help around the home can feel odd. There are strange elements of classism at play. And, it can feel odd to have someone you don’t really know in your home, in the most private corners. If you are struggling with the idea of hiring a housekeeper, here are some ways to feel better about it.
You are creating a job
You are not forcing someone to take up the job of housekeeper by hiring a housekeeper. Housekeepers are already out there, wanting to work, and looking for more income. You are creating a job by hiring someone to clean your home.
It is a better use of savings
Wouldn’t you rather use that $100 a month to create income for someone who needs it, then hoard it so you can spend it on designer clothes, expensive cocktails, and other luxury items? If you are in a financial position where that is what you would do with the extra money, isn’t it better to contribute to trickle down economy and help someone make a living?
You are a respectful employer
Considering that women make up the vast majority of housekeepers, and that those women go into the private homes of people they do not know, there is always a risk that housekeepers take when they do their job. You, however, know that you are a respectful and safe employer. At least if you hire someone, that is one more place that housekeeper can work where she feels safe and respected.
Fewer fights with your partner
Even though you try to split up the cleaning work, something always goes wrong, doesn’t it? You feel like you clean more than your partner does or you disagree on how to clean things. And when you both fall behind, you become grouchy just because of the sight of your place. Hiring a housekeeper eliminates these arguments. No more arguing about who did or did not do their job, because it is now the housekeeper’s job.
Eventually, it will be inevitable
Hopefully, if things go as planned, you will move into a larger home one day. Eventually, you will live in a place that is just too large for you to clean on your own. Finding a housekeeper whom you trust and like takes a long time. It is best to do that now, while your home is small. You don’t want to start the search, when you are in over your head with a large house.
You will develop a relationship
We always had a housekeeper growing up, and I absolutely adored our housekeeper. She became part of the family. My parents would give her holiday gifts, and bonuses. They would give her some very nice hand me downs like flat screen televisions. It actually becomes a very loving and symbiotic relationship.
Your free time is priceless
At the moment, you probably feel like you are always tidying up, and still your place is not looking the way you want it to, and you never have free time. That is not a very satisfactory arrangement. If you hire someone, you get hours of free time back every month or even every week. What would you do with that? There are probably a lot of things you wish you were doing more of but can’t because you are busy cleaning.
You can set boundaries
Your housekeeper does not have to have access to every nook and cranny of your home. If you have an office or a bedroom with valuables, you can simply leave those off her to-do list. If privacy is your main concern, there are certainly ways around this.
Your guilt does nobody any good
Maybe you feel guilty hiring someone to clean your home because you feel that it makes you elitist or puts you above them in some way. That is simply not true. A housekeeper offers a service just like an accountant does or a mechanic does. She offers a service you cannot do, or you cannot do very well.
Don’t feel lazy
Ironically, many people feel that hiring a housekeeper instantly makes them a snob. You can feel like you should be able to clean on your own. Are you some sort of lazy teenager? But you actually earned the income to hire a housekeeper by being anything but lazy. And you may use your free time to do good things like volunteer work or spending more time with your children. Is that a lazy person?
You can get a referral
You don’t have to hire a total stranger. At this very moment, you probably have several friends and colleagues who have a housekeeper whom they trust and have had working for them for many years. They can vouch for them. This does not need to be a random hire off craigslist.
Your friends won’t judge you
Probably. If you are relatively young, you might worry that your friends will judge you for hiring a housekeeper. They might call you fancy or a snob. Ultimately, you really won’t care when you walk in to a spotless home. And because of everything else we have discussed, you know those friends are wrong. One day, they will hire a housekeeper and swallow their words.
You are supporting a family
You may hire someone with a family to support. You may hire someone with a family to support that lives in a city where the cost-of-living is so low that your housekeeper supports them entirely, remotely. You never know what the situation is when you hire someone. But you could be making a big difference.
Cleanliness affects productivity
From a simple financial standpoint, it may actually be good for your work to hire someone. When our space is cluttered and dirty, it affects our focus and our productivity. So you actually become more productive into ways by hiring someone. First, you are not spending time cleaning. And second, your place actually becomes so clean that you can focus.
You will pay fair
Sometimes, there is worry about housekeepers being taken advantage of. There is worry that they are not paid enough. And, that does go on. So take comfort in knowing that you will pay your housekeeper fairly.