How To Get Better Responses To Your Online Dating Profile

May 14, 2019  |  

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Time spent on dating apps are an annoying but necessary investment when you are navigating modern-day singlehood. There are so many apps and dating platforms available to us, but it can be hard to get responses and feedback from the people you want to connect with the most.

But a dating expert has some advice on how to cut through the clutter to get the companionship you want.

Match’s chief dating expert Rachel DeAlto told  Bustle, “There are so many challenges to dating, and so many people who are frustrated. We want a way for people to both release that frustration and get pragmatic tips.”

Here are a few:

Be Positive 

Make sure your profile is as welcoming online as your personality is offline.

“You don’t have to ooze unicorns, puppies, and rainbows,” DeAlto told Bustle. “But many people say things like ‘Don’t contact me if…’ or they are just openly negative about dating and say they hate apps.”

Be Authentic

Use the digital wall to allow you to express yourself freely, without judgment. You don’t want to put on airs like you’re someone you are not. Think of your dating profile as an extension of real life fabulous you.

“People often think they have to pretend to be someone else to be liked,” DeAlto said. “But as the saying goes, there is a lid for every pot. So how is the lid supposed to fit you if you aren’t being yourself?”

Leave The Cliche’s At Home

Hashtags #GrindNeverStops and #HustleHard are cliche life mottos that don’t really tell your suitors anything about what you care about.

“If you have a theory on life, that’s great,” DeAlto said. “But a dating profile isn’t the place for that.”

Keep Photos Friendly 

Take the time to choose your photos wisely. Don’t just upload any old bathroom selfie and call it a day. Pick some conversation worthy photos and show yourself and your life in the best light.

“Oftentimes, we have people call us [at Match], especially guys, asking about why they aren’t getting responses,” DeAlto said. But when Match experts examine their profile, they see them with sunglasses on, scowling, or in an undesirable background.


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