Remember when Pastor John Gray caught the holy backlash from the internet last year over revealing that his wife birthed more pain in rearing him than his own two children?
Well rapper Chance The Rapper has stoked the fire once again over the controversial notion that some hold over whether or not it’s a woman’s job to lead men from boyhood to manhood.
The Chicago rapper is being called out over his Mother’s Day post on Instagram dedicated to his wife, Kirsten Corley, where he thanks her for being a great mother to their three-year-old daughter, Kensli.
“Marriage is dope cause I get to live with a mama forever. Not my mama, but it damn near feels like it sometimes. Thank you bringing Kensli into this world but also for occasionally being a mommy to me,” he wrote.
And you know it did not take long at all for the Internet to pull Lil Chano up a seat to discuss the context surrounding his caption.
“Sorry but this is uh… not how that’s supposed to go,” wrote user @a_ahlz in the rapper’s comment section.
@itsmecreightonleigh wrote, “at least men are admitting they want 2nd mothers and emotional labor from their partners. Lord this isn’t a compliment.”
However, not everyone was ready to ctrl + alt + delete the artist.
“Chance, you are so great. Your daughter and wife are lucky to have you as much as you are them,” wrote @rad_rn, along with many others posted messages of support instead of condemnation.
However, what is clear is that even though Chance’s caption seems lighthearted and full of love, it points to a clear indicator that many men feel it is the plight of the woman to uphold and carry their emotional labor. And while raising children with a loving partner is definitely something to be celebrated in Black love, the idea that women should bear the weight of rearing both their men and children works against progression.
What do you think? Was Chance’s caption another troublesome visual on toxic relationship patterns or have some taken it too far?