Why Joking During Fights Relieves The Tension
My partner and I use humor to diffuse situations a lot. For example, yesterday, he came home after a long day, probably hoping to find a somewhat tidy apartment, to find that I’d just cooked myself a three-course lunch (I was feeling fancy?), from which I had not yet cleaned up. Instead of saying something nasty to me, secluding himself to a room, and becoming grumpy (which he has done surrounding my messes before), he just said, “Are we having a yard sale I didn’t know about?” which made me laugh, which made him laugh, and then he said, “Boo—can you do something about this when you’re done eating?” That was such a better way to handle it than exploding at me. We were over the incident within three minutes, and went onto have a nice night. Here are some reasons joking about fights can relieve the tension.
Laughing lowers blood pressure
Laughing cannot only lower blood pressure but it can also slow down your stress response. Translation: you don’t overreact as much to the little tiff you and your partner are having about your visiting in-laws.