Loni Love On Finding Happiness With Boyfriend James Welch: “I’ve Never Looked At His Color”
Talk show host Loni Love, of the daytime chatfest The Real, recently opened up more than ever before regarding her interracial relationship with her boyfriend James Welsh. She also discussed not settling for love, white privilege, and more.
After being single for several years and openly discussing her lack of dating life on her talk show, Love actually found love last year when she began dating current boyfriend James Welsh, who she describes as “just a nice guy.” She revealed that he found his way to her heart by sending her regular “good morning” text messages during the early stages of their courtship.
However, Love also got serious when she opened up regarding her decision to date outside her race during an interview with HelloBeautiful, saying:
“I don’t think that anybody should intentionally go outside of their race. It just happened for me. I’m older and I’ve been dating a long time. I’ve been dating black men for 47 years, so nothing’s wrong with that. But this just happened. I’ve never looked at his color. I looked at the point of his compatibility with me and you know, he likes me, I like him, we commute, boom. It really wasn’t about the color. I was just looking for a partner is somebody that I could work with and he just turns out to be white.”
She also had a message for Black woman who find themselves settling for love in an effort to simply be able to say they are in a relationship:
“I’m telling sisters, you don’t have to struggle if it’s hard. Sometimes you just need to get out of it. Especially when you’re working, you’re busy raising kids, you’re working. You want to be able to just pick up the phone, call your partner. I’d pick up the phone. Call James Right now. He’d pick up.”
When dating someone outside your race, specifically someone white, the question of racial issues and white privilege comes up—and Love said she openly has those discussions with Welsh:
“James talks a lot about what’s happening politically, socially. He brings a lot of things to me and it’s also nice to hear a different point of view. I would never date somebody that I couldn’t relate to. He has empathy for me and, and the things that I go through.” She continued, “I also have learned a lot about him. I think a lot of people, when they look at White, they think, ‘They have privilege.’ But he struggled coming up just like I did. He didn’t have a lot of money and he had family issues and things like that. So we kind of relate to that as well.”