“How Lovely” Passive-Aggressive Engagement Ring Talk We All Endure
When a woman announces she is engaged, there is a lot that is said that isn’t really said (in addition to the sometimes rude things people do say out loud.) Rarely will you find that someone reacts exactly the way you want him or her to. Perhaps not even your best friend will gush and cry tears of joy for you—in her honest and instantaneous reaction, you may find that she’s not that happy for you. If you’re lucky, a few people who really love you will respond the way you want them to. Even if it’s not how they feel, they love you enough to be good actors for the hour. There will be comments and exclamations about the pairing—you and your fiancé—itself, but there’s a smaller thing that will also receive a lot of comments. Well, it’s literally a small thing but it’s figuratively a big thing: the ring. Women have a lot of feelings about engagement rings—what they should be and what they shouldn’t be. Here are some of the passive aggressive and confusing diamond ring talks you may have.
Oh, it was his mom’s
So perhaps your fiancé decided to give you a family heirloom ring rather than opt for a brand new one from the diamond district. It was passed down from his great grandmother, to his grandmother, to his mother, and to you, it feels very special. You truly feel as if you’re being brought into the family, but perhaps that’s not how others see it.